I Used To Have Answer, Now I Have Kids （幽默親子教養法）

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這一本書進出書攤的書櫃已經有好幾個星期了。若不是因為要介紹書憑著書名，我是絕對不會看這一類型的書籍。我不是為人父母者，我想我將來也不會當別人的父母。

看到這麼強而有力的標題，我還是忍不住翻開來看。視線卻先落在作者的名字上。感覺非常熟悉。原來我之前看過作者的一本著作：『簡單中的富足』，所以對作者不會陌生。

作者柯樂維（Phil Callaway)的文筆很風趣、幽默，閱讀他的著作會讓你忍不住開懷大笑。 雖然這一本書不，但是開始閱讀第一頁時就忍不住的想一口氣把整本書閱讀完。書中速說的每一個問題也許你都會很熟悉，也許都曾經發生在你家中。問題在於你怎麼去面對，怎麼去解決。

身為父母的，有機會一定要閱讀。單身著也不容錯過。也許西方國家和東方國家的文化有差距。教導孩子的方法亦不相同。別人教養的經驗也無法實踐在生活上。因為那時別人的經歷。但別人的經驗也許無法實踐在自己生活上，但他人經驗可成為我們的參考、我們的學習、我們的激勵。

教導孩子從家庭開始。家庭，是愛的港灣，是人生旅途的加油站。


父母是教導孩子的關鍵人物。甚麼樣的父母就教養出甚麼樣的孩子。

作者簡介
柯樂維

為人風趣幽默，他認為歡笑是一種恩賜，但更是一種選擇、操練和藝術。我們若能保持一顆孩童般的赤子之心，而且經常像孩童一樣，為生活中看似平淡無奇的瑣事而開心嘻笑、雀躍歡樂，這樣或許可以更靠近上帝一些。

柯樂維除了是獲獎無數的專欄作家，也是北美頗富盛名的講員，每年來自企業界、宗教機構、教會的演講邀約不斷，是各處研討會、特會和聚會大受歡迎的嘉賓。 他現任大草原聖經學院（Prairie Bible Institute）《僕人》（Servant）雜誌的總編。他著作等身，其中多本已有波蘭文、西班牙文及中文譯本出版。以「大描寫」（The Big Picture）為名的錄影帶系列更廣受歡迎，世界各地經過八萬間教會的播放研討。此外，柯樂維的幽默小品也經常刊載於北美各大報章雜誌。

柯樂維與他高中的愛人蕾夢娜結婚，定居在加拿大風景極美的落磯山脈東麓阿爾伯達省一個叫三丘（Three Hills）的小城，至今恩愛渝恆，育有三個子女。

Biography

Phil Callaway is an award-winning author and speaker, known worldwide for his humorous yet perceptive look at life. He is the best-selling author of 24 books including Laughing Matters, Who Put My Life On Fast Forward? I Used to Have Answers...Now I Have Kids, Making Life Rich Without Any Money, and Family Squeeze. Phil's writings have been translated into languages like Polish, Chinese, Spanish, German, Dutch, Indonesian, and English (one of which he speaks fluently!)

He speaks 100 times a year around the world. Phil's list of accomplishments also includes shutting off the TV to listen to his children's questions (twice), taking out the garbage without being told (once), and convincing his high school sweetheart to marry him (once). Described as "Dave Barry with a message," Callaway is a popular speaker for corporations, conferences, camps, and marriage retreats. He is a frequent guest on national radio and television, and partners with Compassion, an international child development agency. Phil's writings have won more than a dozen international awards. His 5-part video series The Big Picture is being viewed in 80,000 churches worldwide.

Callaway is editor of Servant magazine, which he helped start in 1989 with the goal of encouraging, edifying, and educating readers. A general interest magazine, Servant is now read in more than 100 countries. Phil is a syndicated columnist and has published hundreds of articles.

內容簡介

親子關係成功的關鍵，就在幽默感裡
新手父母在迎接新生兒時的措手不及，到孩子青春期的麻煩惹事，儘管這些都讓父母處於高度緊張狀態。作者柯樂維想要告訴我們，當我們仔細聆聽孩子的童言童語，再想想自己曾經有過的調皮搗蛋童年，就會發現親子生活中其實充滿了「歡樂」，關鍵只在於你是否去發掘。

少了幽默，人生就只有成功和失敗；少了幽默，成績就只有好和壞；「幽默」是教導孩子交託一切掛慮的法則，是幫助父母卸下沉重生活壓力的良方。幽默所製造 的歡樂，能幫助親子一同笑看人生中各樣紛至沓來的壓力，知道人生必然充滿各樣挑戰，失敗挫折也是必經過程；而隨著人生而來的各樣艱難挫折，在緊抓住神的手 中，仍舊充滿著盼望。

父母輕鬆笑一笑！

柯樂維不插電教養法則：

1.出生本來就不是孩子自願的，所以一定有人得要負起責任。
2.沒有好好妥善保管小孩的奶嘴，就要乖乖接受哭鬧的懲罰。
3.爸媽能忍受汽車後座小孩的煩人打鬧，就已經顯明了奇蹟。
4.如果進化論屬實的話，天下的媽媽都該長出第三隻手，腦袋後面也會多出一對眼睛。
5.智慧的父親會在教小孩打棒球時說：「不用緊張啦，你可以十三次揮棒不中才被三振。」
6.生活公約：「至於我和我家，必定遠離電視機。因為凡是真實的、可敬的、公義的……都不會出現在電視黃金時段。」
7.只要多聽聽孩子的童言童語，處處都是開心爆笑的機會。
8.我們若肯多聽從老婆的吩咐，也會增長幾分智慧。
9.經常屈膝禱告的父母會發現，上帝總是適時提供一切需要──愛心、智慧、見識，和強效頭疼藥。

丟開所有讓你壓力更大、心情更壞的教養書，親子間真正需要的，是能一起笑看人生的幽默力量。

每天陪孩子幽默一笑，你就是成功好父母！

Product Description

Max Lucado says, "Need a shot of sunlight on a cloudy day? This book's for you!" From the early daze of parenthood through the mischief of toddlerhood and on into those white knuckles of the teenage years, these stories of laughter and hope remind us that even at the worst of times, the best is coming. This book contains 43 award-winning short stories all updated in a new volume complete with all the original John McPherson cartoons. "I think readers will be interested to know," says Phil, "that these stories were written by a young self-deprecating dad who didn't have the answers, so he prayed a lot. Because of God's grace, the children in these books are now relatively responsible grown-ups who are making a difference in their world. If you're a parent, I think you'll find some answers here too."